Feeling Substitution: Tit for Tat

Feelings are essential to our lives and well-being, because they give us information about what is going on around us and inside of us. We learn from an early age that there are acceptable feelings and unacceptable feelings. Many families have only one or maybe two feelings that are understood and accepted by its members.

For example: a child grows up in a family where the only acceptable feelings are sadness or depression. When someone expresses joy and excitement, (s)he is met by a lack of enthusiasm, perhaps is even told to “calm down.” Children in this family quickly learn that excitement, joy, and enthusiasm are unacceptable.

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Love Is In The Air!

Love is in the air

In 1977, John Paul Young released, “Love is in the Air”, his only worldwide hit. This could easily be the theme song for Valentine’s Day and the month of February.

 

 

Love is in the air everywhere I look around

Love is in the air every sight and every sound

And I don’t know if I’m being foolish, don’t know if I’m being wise

But it’s something that I must believe in, and it’s there when I look in your eyes.

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Fifty Shades of Grey, Fifty Shades of Fantasy

Fifty Shades of Grey sold 100 million copies worldwide, mainly to women, of all different ages, cultures and backgrounds. The book was so popular that Hollywood made a movie out of it. What was the enormous appeal?

The makers of Fifty Shades of Grey call it a fairy tale. We can safely say it meets the criteria of a fairytale, albeit a very adult one, in all its nuances. Fairy tales commonly involve fantastic forces or beings. Christian Grey is definitely “fantastic.” The stories have improbable events that lead to a happy ending. In Fifty Shades, Ana receives the attention and adoration of the most eligible bachelor of the day. Finally, fairy tales are seen as made-up stories designed to mislead their audiences. Fifty Shades of Grey can lead the reader or viewer into dangerous misconceptions of how life can be.

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Love, Freudian Style

In the early 1900’s Freud and his colleagues were developing new and radical ideas about the psychological makeup of humans. It may not seem so today, but their ideas on love were on target.

They theorized what we believe about love is based on our early experience with our main caretakers. Freud and his colleagues said these early events determine, on an unconscious level, what we experience as love.

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Reflections on Ground Hog Day


Ground hog dayOH, NO! The groundhog saw his shadow, and there will be six more weeks of bad weather. This is just awful. How am I going to survive? I am so sick of this weather, the rain, the overcast days and the cold. I just hate the cold. I don’t want to go out of my house. I don’t even want to leave long enough to do something fun, much less something like exercise. This is such bad news.

Then, the phone buzzed.

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