What Does Love Have to do With it?
In last week’s blog, we talked about memories, feelings or thoughts from the past being activated in present experiences and relationships. When this happens, we will feel and think in ways that are influenced by previous events. This dynamic can be seen in romantic relationships
You meet someone and from the first moment, they feel just right. They seem to know what you are thinking before you speak. You have shared interests and similar backgrounds. You feel comfortable with him or her from the beginning and feel comfortable telling them anything.
Fast forward six months, a year, even ten years, and that same person has become someone whom you both love and hate. It’s as if you can’t live with him or her, yet you can’t live without that person either. He or she irritates you almost every time they speak. You don’t feel that person understands you any longer and you sure don’t understand him or her.
The meaningful talk has stopped. You do small talk, you argue, or you don’t talk at all.
You wonder what happened in the relationship; did the other person change or did you? Continue reading