It may feel like there is no way to get out from under the control of the Harsh Inner Critic. The messages are so powerful and feel so true. The good news is that with time, practice and support you can develop the skill to be in charge of your thoughts and how you respond to them. This is not to say you can have absolute control, rather it is the ability to not believe everything you hear inside and, therefore, be able to make choices.
Happy anniversary to me. One year ago today, I started publishing a weekly blog. If you had told me last October that I would succeed in this endeavor, I would never have believed you. What a milestone this is for me.
Early in 2014, I decided my website needed to be updated. It had looked the same since it was designed in 2007. The original website was a big deal—few psychotherapists even had websites at that time, so it was a ground breaking experience.
That site held for me a number of memories and represented seven years of my work. It was a beauty. However, seven years is a long time on the internet. It was time to make a change.
An internal safe place is a tool that you can create to help you manage stress and the busyness of life. It is a place in your head where you can retreat to take your attention away from the feelings you are having in the present moment. It is all yours, designed by you to be safe, soothing and calm.
There are two kinds of people when the alarm goes off – those who love mornings, and those who don’t.
People who love to get out of bed wake up refreshed and ready to face the day. They are generally cheerful, happy and positive just because it is morning. They need nothing special and no encouragement to start their day.
On the other hand, there are those self-proclaimed morning haters. The alarm goes off and their first action of the day is to slam their hand down on the snooze button. They return to the realm of sleep as soon as possible and groan when the alarm goes off again.