The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind: Why Memories?

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind While walking on a windy winter beach on Valentine’s Day, a depressed man who is feeling hopeless, meets a quirky woman. He is afraid of contact and talking; she appears to be full of life, enthusiasm and a longing for adventure.

She makes overtures of friendship and he responds. Thus, begins the relationship between Joel and Clementine in the movie The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Continue reading

Questions to Ask Yourself After a Breakup

Questions to ask yourself after a breakupIt is an understatement to say it hurts when you breakup. We have all felt it. Not only does it hurt, it turns your life upside down. In many cases, large parts of your routine must be rearranged, changed and rebuilt.

You go from being a couple or a family to being a partial family or just one person. Your routines change, activities change, and friends change. You may even have to find new living arrangements and/or new sources of income.

Breaking up is, indeed, hard to do.

The “moving on” process takes time and is better done if you pay attention to yourself and where you are in the process. If you find yourself having a hard time moving forward, letting go of your ex, and building your own life, it might be helpful to ask yourself some important questions.  The answers can guide you to better understand yourself.

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Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.,on Equality and Change

DR. MARTIN LUTHER KING, Jr. ,on equality and change.

I HAVE A DREAM

This is the day we commemorate the short life of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.  While he is adored and respected today, when he was alive he was feared and hated because he was working for radical change. He called for people to alter the structure of society, and to do so would require individuals to change from the inside.

 

We have moved from the era of civil rights to the era of human rights, an era where we are called upon to raise certain basic questions about the whole society.”

The call for Change

The message he brought to the world, and to the cause he championed, was far larger than segregation. He worked for justice, equality and peace. He opposed militarism and violence of any kind, yet he believed it takes action – nonviolent action – to bring about change.

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5 Lessons You Can Learn From My Year of Blogging

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Happy anniversary to me.  One year ago today, I started publishing a weekly blog.  If you had told me last October that I would succeed in this endeavor, I would never have believed you.  What a milestone this is for me.

The Beginning

Early in 2014, I decided my website needed to be updated.  It had looked the same since it was designed in 2007.  The original website was a big deal—few psychotherapists even had websites at that time, so it was a ground breaking experience.

That site held for me a number of memories and represented seven years of my work.  It was a beauty.  However, seven years is a long time on the internet.  It was time to make a change.

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7 lessons about change from Pope Francis

Pope FrancisPope Francis is traveling the world, working to create peace and change. He just completed a visit to the United States and Cuba as part of his push to bring activism out of the Vatican and into the world arena.

Regardless of your opinion of him, his actions, or his beliefs, there are lessons everyone can learn from him about how to confront your personal issues and bring about change.

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