In my last blog I talked about the definition of co-dependent and co-dependency. This week I want to talk about some of the characteristics of co-dependents and their behaviors.
- Everything related to feelings is difficult.
A co-dependent has a hard time identifying what they are feeling. They usually know what their partner and everyone else is feeling and determines their feelings accordingly. - Feeling good about themselves comes from others liking them.
When they don’t have approval from others, their Harsh Inner Critic tells them they are not wanted. - Their mental attention is focused outside of themselves.
It is focused on pleasing others and protecting others. If they can do something for another person and be recognized for it they will feel good. - Fear controls and motivates them.
The fear of anger and rejection determines what they say and how they act. They don’t have personal opinions, only opinions designed to please others.
